Women spend decades becoming what everyone needed them to be.
I HELP you get her back.
This is where you come back to yourself.
I'm Dr. Thomai Roi, The Divorce Doula for Accomplished Women. I'm also a women's identity coach, speaker, author, and the founder of Arguably Feral Women.
I work with women in midlife who are on the other side of a marriage and have realized that somewhere between being a wife, mother, and whoever else you were supposed to be, you disappeared.
My work is identity retrieval. I help you remember the woman you were before life told you to make yourself smaller. As your doula, I walk alongside you throughout your entire divorce process supporting you every step of the way.
I enjoyed our call so much! It was so helpful for me to have another perspective on things l've been going through in my own entrepreneurial journey, as well as get some good ideas for things-items that were in front of my face/ obvious but I didn't even consider before our conversation. Thank you SO much for your time!!!"— Revive and Rise Coaching
Absolutely amazing talk! Dr. Thomai Roi, thank you! With a warmth and a genuineness, you took all of us on such a beautiful journey. You showed up for us with such unguarded empowerment and wise transformation that you made us know we can reach for the big things too! If you have a chance for Dr. Thomai Roi to be your speaker, I highly recommend it! Your audience will thank you because they will leave feeling inspired, believing they are worth making positive life changes, and even having tools to put into practice."— Dr. Darcy Lord, Self-Love Expert & Founder Programs That Uplift
Dr. Thomai Roi brings a quiet strength and comforting presence to the stage. She is so natural and down to earth that the audience felt immediately at ease. As she shared poignant, and at times hilarious, stories about significant moments in her life, I forgot I was watching someone give a talk and felt more like we were having a heartfelt conversation among kindred spirits. Thomai’s message of ignoring doubt and overcoming discouragement to step into the fullness of your potential resonated deeply. She reminded me that whatever we set our hearts on accomplishing, we can do it, not just for our own benefit but in service to others. I highly recommend her for her impeccable storytelling and relatability. "— Heather Ebert, Writer, Author, and Creator of You Are the Muse: A Guide to Intuitive Writing
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For women who have lived a lot of life and didn’t come out the other side polished, palatable, or small.
Join Thomai on the Arguably Feral Women podcast for honest, nuanced conversations about the real challenges women face across adulthood and midlife: Building careers, starting and scaling businesses, becoming mothers (or choosing not to), navigating marriage, divorce, reinvention, burnout, ambition, desire, and identity, all often at the same time.
The next version of your life starts with one conversation.
Dr. Thomai Roi is a divorce doula, women's identity coach, speaker, author, and executive advisor. She is the founder of Arguably Feral Women and the community, Arguably Feral Women: The Village, a safe space built for women going through divorce. She is also the creator and host of the Arguably Feral Women podcast.
Thomai works with women navigating divorce and identity loss, speaks to audiences on identity, midlife transition, and self-leadership, and advises executives on who they are apart from the titles they hold. Her book, The Threshold, is forthcoming.
It takes a village. Yours is here.
Arguably Feral Women: The Village is a free community for women going through divorce. It exists because I went through my own divorce feeling completely alone, and I refuse to let that be anyone else's experience.
You shouldn't have to figure out who you are in isolation. This is where women come together come to do the work.